Why I Do What I Do
Life has a way of leading us exactly where we need to be, even if the journey isn’t always smooth and the terrain is uncomfortable, almost unbearable at times. My path to becoming a hypnotherapist was anything but straightforward—it was deeply personal, shaped by my own struggles and experiences. And that’s why I understand, on a very real level, just how overwhelming it can feel to be stuck, searching for change but lost in the dark.
For most of my life, I battled with anxiety, bouts of depression, and low self-esteem. I was just never 'enough'. I had tried many different approaches over the years, but something was always missing. It felt like I was constantly patching things up rather than truly healing. When I lost my dear friend Brigette to suicide, the weight of it all became unbearable. That loss shook me to my core. The tiny rug I had left to stand on was finally pulled. It left me questioning everything—about myself, about life, about what really mattered. I literally crumpled.
And yet, in the deepest grief, an unexpected gift appeared. The path I was meant to walk had been there all along, but I had been too lost to see it. Brigette’s passing led me to Solution Focused Hypnotherapy (via a suicide support charity I was receiving help from at that time), a therapy that would not only change my life but become my purpose. This wasn’t just about healing myself anymore—it was about finding a way to help others, to reach those who were struggling, who had strayed from their path, and to offer them hope.
Healing from the Past
Another significant part of my journey has been taking the time, a lot of time, to heal from past relationships that left me feeling lost, broken, and disoriented. Relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships, inevitably shape how we see ourselves and our perceived worth. For a long time, I carried the weight of self-doubt, and confusion, unsure of how to rebuild, or maybe start building a sense of self. Through the journey Brigette kicked started, I finally found my way back to myself. This experience deepened my understanding of the emotional impact of relationships. Healing is never linear, it's bumps and twists and turns and impasses, but with the right support, it is absolutely possible.
Now, I navigate the complexities of a blended family—a dynamic that comes with its own unique challenges and lessons. Balancing different personalities, viewpoints, and emotions continues to teach me so much about patience, understanding, and the power of communication. It’s not always easy, but it’s real. I make a lot of mistakes and learn a lot of lessons, and I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Walking the Path
I don’t just practise hypnotherapy—I live it. I know what it’s like to feel lost, to carry the weight of mental health issues and abusive relationships, to wonder if things will ever change for the better. It's shaped my approach to be compassionate, non-judgemental, and completely focused on moving forward. Walking beside you at a pace you are comfortable with. No more living in the past—just practical, positive steps toward the life you want.
More recently, I’ve also been navigating my own neurodivergent journey. Receiving a diagnosis at 43 was another huge turning point—one that helped me make sense of so much. It was like a domino falling, sending ripples all the way back to my earliest memories. Suddenly, I understood, accepted and appreciated myself in a way I never had been able to before. It's another big learning journey and one I don't think I'll ever reach the end of, but it's a journey I'm happy to be on rather than desperately trying to change. No longer fighting against myself, but working with my talents, skills and unique characteristics to create something I can be proud of.
I know how important it is to feel truly seen.
This isn’t just a job for me. It’s personal. It’s a privilege to walk alongside people as they rediscover their strength and take control back for themselves. If I can offer even a small light to those who feel lost, then I know I am exactly where I need to be. Thank you Brigette.
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