This can be a really tough one as we can often, in Western Society, be taught from a young age that you are responsible for more than you truly are and these old templates can be hard to shift. Take the good old phrase,
Mum: "Stop that, you're making Mummy cross!"
Child: "I think, Mother, that you'll find you are choosing to be cross and that is not my responsibility!" Probably won't go down to well......
Have a look at the image and see what should be inside your circle of responsibility (yellow). Then see what from the blue circle you are also trying to influence.
Truly only those things within your circle (YOUR feelings, YOUR actions, YOUR words, YOUR beliefs and YOUR reactions) are are actually your responsibility. When we start to feel that things from the Others circle are also our responsibility, then life can become pretty stressful. If we believe we are responsible for how others might feel, what others might think, what others might do, how others might see us, etc. that piles on the pressure, increases stress and anxiety, starts the doubt and blame games and we can soon be feeling completely overwhelmed.
Try and think about these circles next time you're feeling stressed or putting too much pressure on yourself. What, in this, am I really responsible for? By taking full responsibility for yourself, and allowing others to do the same, we start to shift the balance of power back in our favour allowing us to feel more calm and relaxed and in control of ourselves and our lives.
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Warmest wishes,
Kim
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